Dear Son, I remember the day you started playing the piano your grandparents bought us. You approached it with the same casual interest as you do anything new in your life. You shuffled up to it, made room for yourself, sat down - feet on the floor because you didn't understand the peddles yet - … Continue reading Life in Minor Chords: A Letter to My Son on His 16th Birthday
"The first thing you should know is that this isn't actually a letter to my son. Why? Because teenagers don't read heart-felt letters from their mothers, and that's the truth."
You are Not Alone and It's Not Forever To the mommas who had a not-so-Happy Mother’s Day, for whatever reason: it happens. And I feel you. I’m 15 years and 5 kids in - no pro-mom here, just a pro-survivor with some of experience speaking - and I can tell you, it does. If it … Continue reading When Mother’s Day Sucks…
Conflict. In my experience, which could be saying something right there, it happens in every relationship. Sometimes it's easy to forgive. Sometimes it's easy to move on. But sometimes it's worse in one relationship than in another - or worse at certain times. Sometimes, it's more painful. Stinging. Sometimes it leaves you a little breathless, … Continue reading Will You Be The Hero?
It's twelve days into the new year, and my resolution to love people better so far has been a big fat flop. From the outside, I am almost certain my relationships still look like giant, frozen popsicle-trees on the landscape of my life. Bizarre and unmoving. And I'd be lying if I said I didn't … Continue reading The Great Thaw (or Oh Yeah, Love is a Choice)
It's three days into 2018, and I've avoided writing this. Why? Because really it is a confession that, underneath it all my perky, I am a Scrooge. In the past, I have been on both sides of the resolution-fence - the side that makes and the side that rejects. This year, after a long, grumpy … Continue reading Why You Should Keep Making New Year’s Resolutions + Mine.
This is part two of a two-part series about intrinsic motivation. Read part one now. One of the hardest times of the day to inspire intrinsic motivation in a child is after eight hours of academia of any kind. But that doesn’t mean its not worth the effort. Why? Because there is a truly invaluable … Continue reading Three Ways to Motivate Your Child After School
I love Brene Brown. I love her work. I love her spunk. I love that Oprah loves her. And I want to take all her classes. I feel like when I do, I might finally understand myself and become more of a grown up. Ha! But when I came across the class The Gifts of … Continue reading Adapting Brene Brown’s Course “The Gifts Of Imperfection” for a Tweenager
Whether or not you know it yet, the child you want to develop through your parenting efforts is a self-motivated one. Why? Because intrinsically motivated kids are empowered to take care of themselves when you’re not looking. Or micro-managing. Or fretting. Here are three ways to develop intrinsic motivation in your child before they head … Continue reading Three Ways To Promote Intrinsic Motivation In a Child Before School
One day it didn't come. It just stopped. It wasn't the first time, but somehow we are never ready for it when the child supports stops. Surely it was just because of the long weekend. It was Labor Day. I'm sure that's the lag. It will come. And sometimes it does, but if you've been … Continue reading When Child Support Stops