"The first thing you should know is that this isn't actually a letter to my son. Why? Because teenagers don't read heart-felt letters from their mothers, and that's the truth."
It's twelve days into the new year, and my resolution to love people better so far has been a big fat flop. From the outside, I am almost certain my relationships still look like giant, frozen popsicle-trees on the landscape of my life. Bizarre and unmoving. And I'd be lying if I said I didn't … Continue reading The Great Thaw (or Oh Yeah, Love is a Choice)
One day it didn't come. It just stopped. It wasn't the first time, but somehow we are never ready for it when the child supports stops. Surely it was just because of the long weekend. It was Labor Day. I'm sure that's the lag. It will come. And sometimes it does, but if you've been … Continue reading When Child Support Stops
Where do I belong? I see it in my kids' eyes when they look at me when we reunite after a weekend with their dads. It's a quiet searching, a longing, an uncertainty reaching out for reassurance. It's a question: Where do I belong? Do I belong with you? And I see it in their … Continue reading Family, Creating a Place to Belong
A Quick Reference About Parenting Kids with ADHD Recently, a mom approached me about Love & Logic parenting techniques that would help her address her child's ADHD symptoms. Her primary concern was over-medication, but she confessed that she was overwhelmed by her son's behavior in general. To address her concerns in depth, I compiled this … Continue reading Resources: ADHD
Co-Parenting from High Ground For Justine, a fellow parent with limited co-parenting options. I had big plans for this article. It was going to be didactic and helpful - a foundational resource article for parents trying to co-parent amicably. Then I read a story about a parent trying to better her life - setting life … Continue reading What to Do When Co-parenting Isn’t an Option
Are kids The Straw That Broke the Camel's Back or the Cat's Meow? and do they know? I'm afraid my kids would say sometimes they feel like they are a burden on me. Ouch. Here's how I came to that realization, and how I hope to get a chorus of meows. A heartbreaking story about … Continue reading How I Make Sure My Kids Feel Like Blessings (Not Burdens)
Peace Keeping: Leaving the Charge & Losing to Win I didn't intend to start with a story about warfare. But this is reality. Our families are under attack. Whether the first thought that popped into your head when you read that statement was a connection to what's happening in the world today, outside the boundaries of your … Continue reading How I Won Back My Family By Losing the Fight