"The first thing you should know is that this isn't actually a letter to my son. Why? Because teenagers don't read heart-felt letters from their mothers, and that's the truth."
It's twelve days into the new year, and my resolution to love people better so far has been a big fat flop. From the outside, I am almost certain my relationships still look like giant, frozen popsicle-trees on the landscape of my life. Bizarre and unmoving. And I'd be lying if I said I didn't … Continue reading The Great Thaw (or Oh Yeah, Love is a Choice)
Who do you turn to when you need to remember how precious you are? Whether you are a single mom or just a momma having a hard day, sometimes you need someone else to remind you of your self worth. (Momma, the kids are an unreliable source for this.) As women, we often go to … Continue reading Resources: Understand Your Worthiness
Whether or not you know it yet, the child you want to develop through your parenting efforts is a self-motivated one. Why? Because intrinsically motivated kids are empowered to take care of themselves when you’re not looking. Or micro-managing. Or fretting. Here are three ways to develop intrinsic motivation in your child before they head … Continue reading Three Ways To Promote Intrinsic Motivation In a Child Before School
One day it didn't come. It just stopped. It wasn't the first time, but somehow we are never ready for it when the child supports stops. Surely it was just because of the long weekend. It was Labor Day. I'm sure that's the lag. It will come. And sometimes it does, but if you've been … Continue reading When Child Support Stops
A 12 Year Journey with a Boy Dear Boy, On this night 12 years ago, I was several hours into laboring with you. I was alone in my apartment, but in just one hour, I would have enough of the relentless waves of discomfort and call your father to ask him to drive me to the hospital. … Continue reading A Single Mom’s Letter to Her Son
Are kids The Straw That Broke the Camel's Back or the Cat's Meow? and do they know? I'm afraid my kids would say sometimes they feel like they are a burden on me. Ouch. Here's how I came to that realization, and how I hope to get a chorus of meows. A heartbreaking story about … Continue reading How I Make Sure My Kids Feel Like Blessings (Not Burdens)
Peace Keeping: Leaving the Charge & Losing to Win I didn't intend to start with a story about warfare. But this is reality. Our families are under attack. Whether the first thought that popped into your head when you read that statement was a connection to what's happening in the world today, outside the boundaries of your … Continue reading How I Won Back My Family By Losing the Fight